The deeper you get into a relationship, the more you discover about the person you’re dating. But most people harbor something for a long time — a secret they’re not keen to let anyone in on. What I’m talking about, of course, is your nerd superpower. A nerd superpower involves either encyclopedic knowledge of or intense devotion to a single subject. Sometimes, the superpower involves both. So what’s yours? And more importantly, have you let your other half in on it? Both halves of this couple are fully out of hiding.
She Said: My nerd superpower is television, and branches out more embarrassingly from there. I’ve always loved my shows, from the early days of Saved by the Bell and The Wonder Years to my weekly viewings of Glee and Modern Family. I don’t just watch television, I evaluate it. I read what the critics and bloggers are saying, I actually listen to the commentary on DVD sets and I re-watch episodes for writing and nuance. I’m interested in a lot of television shows, but there have been a select few throughout my personal history that I’ve been embarrassingly committed to. I’m talking spoiler-reading, fan-fiction browsing, YouTube music video watching level of addiction. I don’t feel that sheepish about including Friends and The Office on that list. My Superman mania, however, has humiliatingly fueled my devotion to shows like Lois and Clark: The New Adventures of Superman and Smallville. I can’t explain it, but it is what it is. I was nervous about letting my husband in on the fact that kryptonsite.com was bookmarked on my computer, and that at one point, I owned all four seasons of L and C. I finally opened up after a year or so of dating, and while I have to endure the occasional Lois Lane wannabe joke (guilty!), I’ve never looked back.
He Said: My nerd superpower doesn’t sound nerdy. Music is cool. Rock stars get girls, concert musicians are worshiped, and producers are even featured on American Idol this year. For me, the nerd factor is really defined by how I approach my obsession. I pre-order albums online, listen to bootleg samples, read Rolling Stone with the same intensity as I would a manual outlining a life saving surgery I had to perform on myself. I go through major phases. One year, I listened to Buddy Holly for three months straight. This past Christmas, my wife bought me three Iggy Pop and the Stooges albums. I also play guitar and write music, which kicks my insanity up a notch higher. If I get an idea for a riff in my head, I often can’t do anything else until I lay down a rough recording. If I’m working on a song, I sometimes sit in front of my mixer for six hours without taking a break. When I finally do rejoin the world, my hair is standing on end and my conversation skills are lost. The nerd superpower completely takes over. I played the music obsession cool with my then girlfriend, now wife for awhile, but eventually, I just couldn’t hold it at bay. She may roll her eyes at me from time to time, but even she appreciates my multi-volume road trip mixes.
When it comes to your nerd superpower, covering it up can only hold for so long. If you’re really in love, let your freak flag fly!